Are Muslim women allowed to visit the graveyard?

This is a controversial topic as to say, and, I quote a Hadith which has been recorded by Imam Tirmidhi (Alayhi Rahmah) that Hadhrat Abu Hurairah (Radi Allah Anho) said that the Holy Prophet, Hadhrat Muhammad-ur Rasulullaah(Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) said, 'May Allah Ta'ala curse women who visits the graves.' THIS HAS BEEN GRADED AS A SAHIH HADITH

However, many of the Ulama are of the opinion that the above law has been obliterated by the following narration recorded by Imam Muslim in his Sahih Muslim; on the authority of Hadhrat Abdullah ibn Mas'ood (Radi Allah Anho) that the Holy Prophet, Hadhrat Muhammad-ur Rasulullaah (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) mentioned, 'I had prevented you from visiting the grave, (as of now) you all should visit it for it reminds one of the Aakhirah.' (Sahih Muslim)

 

The Ulama further state that if a woman visits the grave to remember death and soften without crying, then, there is nothing wrong with that bearing in mind that they are mature (old). However, it is Makrooh (not permissible) if they are young! (Shaami Vol. 1 - Maajidiyya and Umdatul Qaari Vol. 8)

 

But, they shouldn't make it in to a habit - i.e. visit it frequently as a Hadith says: